September 24, 2012

Are You A Carbon Copy?

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Written by: Kimberly Alyse
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Identity theft is a criminal act in which a person’s private information is stolen typically to access resources and for financial gain. A person’s identity defines who they are and highlights their individual characteristics. However, do you know what happens when a person becomes a victim of identity theft? I can tell you from my own personal experience that it is not very pleasant.

I remember when I was in college and moved into my very first apartment. I called the phone company to establish service and spoke with a friendly customer service representative. She asked me the routine questions necessary such as my name, address, and social security number. With a confused tone, she asked why I wanted to request phone service if I already had service. I explained to her that I had never had phone service in my life and that it must have been a mistake. Upon further research, I was shocked to learn that another young woman had taken my personal information and established phone service in my name for another apartment for over a year. I could only hope that she didn’t use my identity for anything else. I quickly filed a report with the local police station.

Needless to say, I was furious. I couldn’t believe that someone would have the boldness to steal my information and pretend to be me. As I reflected back on that unpleasant experience, I started thinking about why that woman took my identity in the first place. I came to the realization that she was lacking something in her own life. She thought by stealing my identity would fulfill her personal needs.

If you look at the culture that we live in today, people are having their identities stolen constantly. Unfortunately, many are not aware that they are not only being robbed physically but mentally. Do you know who the thief is? It is our society.

We live in a society that dictates every area of our lives. For instance, it tells us how to dress, what kind of car to drive, where to live, when to get married, and what is considered beautiful. The list is endless. Although it is evident that these trends are ever changing, society has three main objectives which are to transform, influence, and control you. Unfortunately, these continuous changes are accompanied with confusion, uncertainty, and instability.

When you keep changing to please others you unknowingly become a carbon copy and you lose your identity. This often leads to an identity crisis and before you know it, you have no idea who you are at all. It is extremely important to know who you are because it will determine if you fail or succeed. If you are not confident and stable in who you really are, either you will choose the wrong identity, or an identity will be chosen for you. For example, if you know you deserve a good man in your life, you will not allow yourself to be treated disrespectfully. What am I saying? Since you know who you are, you don’t have to degrade yourself according to what society says in order to get a man. Why? You are unique, significant, and valuable. Your confidence will draw the very best so don’t settle for anything less!

If you are struggling with your identity, I want you to stop what you are doing and ask yourself, “Who am I?” I know this may be a tough question for many, but you can do it. Think about it. What makes you unique? What are your best qualities? What do you like about yourself? What do you do well? These answers will help you build your identification mark and you will embrace who you really are. Always remember, your identity is your spotlight to the world. It is what makes you stand out and shine amongst the crowd. So don’t dim your light and keep forever shining!

About the Author

Kimberly Alyse
Kimberly Alyse is the author of “Chosen By One, You Are The Best” which is now available on Amazon. Her currently novel, "Simone Harley: Secret Afflictions," is set for release in the fall of 2014. Contact info: twitter.com/Chosenbyone and kimberlyalyse100@yahoo.com